1. Name three topics that Americans often think that it is rude to talk about. For each, why do you think that Americans think that they are rude topics?
Americans have an unwritten rule book of what is considered appropriate for conversation and what is considered inappropriate. In a casual conversation, especially with people who have met only for the first time, it is considered rude to ask about someone’s personal life. The word personal in personal life explains it all, and many Americans believe that their business should not be broadcasted to any and everybody. Inquiring about anyone’s financial situation is a big no-no as well, because it is a very private topic. The amount of income one makes at their job should never be a topic of discussion either. We feel that by exposing these private aspects of our lives it gives others grounds to talk about and judge us.
2. How do concepts such as the care of the elderly and Buddhist philosophy provide strikingly different models for behavior in Thailand and the United States?
Thailand families are very closely knitted together and their family ties are strong even with the members of the extended family. If an elderly member of the family were to become ill, they would immediately be moved into the home of one of their children and grandchildren. All members of the family pitch in to nurse the elderly member to health, and are glad to do so because of the respect that elderly people hold in many Asian cultures. Attending to a family member in need and family togetherness means being a “morally good person”. In contrast, American families tend to grow apart. If there was an ill, elderly member in an American family they would most likely be cared for by professional or sent to live in a nursing home. For the elderly persons own child to care for them can be a burden because they have other things to worry about and their own family to tend to. By the Buddhist standards, the described American family may have “good morals”.
3. What incidents in your own life experience illustrate the value placed on individualism in American culture that other cultures might find strange? (Be specific)
There is not a specific moment in my life that puts emphasis on the individualism in American culture. However my family is definitely not a family that spends time together; we go on about our own individual lives. Each on of has our own room and spend most of our time there and when we are not in our rooms we’re out with our friends, at school or at work. We rarely come together and just have a moment to talk to each to other. I’ve made some attempts to get my family to hang out together but they never seem to work. We used to go on summer vacations every summer, but for a few summers in a row we have not gone anywhere together. Other cultures place emphasis on family togetherness, yet many American cultures are just like my family.